X-Symantec-TimeoutProtection: 0 Return-Path: Delivered-To: info@ausheart.com.au Received: (qmail 3449 invoked from network); 27 Nov 2004 20:52:39 -0000 Received: from m1.dnsix.com (63.251.171.165) by barracuda.fishinternet.com.au with SMTP; 27 Nov 2004 20:52:39 -0000 Received: from [203.147.241.113] (helo=bne002se.server-mail.com) by m1.dnsix.com with smtp (Exim 4.24) id 1CY9Ya-0005ZB-V2 for info@mensprayer.com; Sat, 27 Nov 2004 12:52:37 -0800 Received: (qmail 19220 invoked from network); 27 Nov 2004 20:52:34 -0000 Received: from unknown (HELO wic004u.hosting.server-login.com) (203.147.129.11) by bne002se.server-mail.com with SMTP; 27 Nov 2004 20:52:34 -0000 Subject: Fathers Dancing Sender: "Fatherhood Foundation" From: "Fatherhood Foundation" Date: Sun, 28 Nov 2004 06:52:33 +1000 To: "info@mensprayer.com" X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal MIME-Version: 1.0 X-Mailer: JMail 4.3.0 by Dimac Message-ID: <003301c1cfc4$27ced2d0$0800a8c0@bosweb.com.au> Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary="--NEXT_BM_C53B54E4EB2A4293B8A99C65AC961063" This is a multipart message in MIME format. ----NEXT_BM_C53B54E4EB2A4293B8A99C65AC961063 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: Quoted-Printable Newsletter Issue No=2E 118-29th November, 2004 In this issue: - Welcome to fathersonline=2Eorg - Dads with Young Children - Grandfathers - Inner Strength - Single Dads - Special feaure - Thought for the Week - News & Info - Dad's Prayer - Mission Statement & Help Us! Welcome to fathersonline=2Eorg ---------------------- Dear Ken , I have a love affair with the truth=2E=A0 It is an =91on and off=92 affair b= ecause I find the truth very hard to take in large doses=2E=A0 It always see= ms to hurt too much=2E=A0 That=92s why the truth is best mixed with laughter= , a song or a movie=2E=A0 Maybe the saying that, =91a spoonful of sugar help= s the medicine go down=92 is true after all=2E =A0 That=92s how I felt after watching, =91Shall We Dance=3F =92, with my wife=2E= =A0 I found myself holding my wife=92s hand tightly=2E=A0 Both of us had tea= rs in our eyes as we looked at each other for the briefest of moments with a= look that said, =91That=92s true isn=92t it=3F=92 =A0 =91Shall We Dance=3F=92 is about a man, John Clark, husband, father, success= ful lawyer specialising in wills=2E=A0 Every day of his life is the same, ba= ckwards and forwards to work on the train, having personally taken care of t= he making of 8,000 wills over the past twenty years=2E John Clark reminisces= , =93After the assets and debts have been tallied up people say, =91Is that = it then=3F=92=A0 I tell them, =91That=92s it for the paper work; the rest is= up to you=2E=94=A0 =A0 This movie tells the story of a man caught in the hum drum suburban cycle of= life, trying to find himself and his passion to live and love again=2E=A0 H= is daily ritual passes a dance studio and he discovers he has a passion for = ballroom and Latin dancing=2E However the film is really about love and the = meaning of marriage=2E =A0 John=92s wife explains why people marry=2E=A0 Not for passion but, =93Becaus= e we need a witness to our lives=2E=A0 There=92s a billion people on the pla= net=2E=A0 What does any one life really mean=3F=A0 But in marriage you=92re = promising to care about everything=2E=A0 The good things, the bad things, th= e terrible things, the mundane things=2E=A0 All of it, all of the time, ever= y day=2E=A0 You=92re saying your life will not go unnoticed because I will n= otice it=2E=A0 Your life will not go on unwitnessed because I will be your w= itness=94=2E =A0 William Shakespeare could not nave done better=2E=A0 Love is a hard thing to= define, but Mrs Clark certainly did well and you will do well to take your = wife out for a well earned break=2E=A0 Be the witness to her life that she i= s to yours=2E=A0 Who puts up with you and the children so much of the time=3F= =A0 Who organises the functioning of your household=3F=A0 I=92m sure there a= re some heroes out there but I=92m not one of them=2E=A0 As one of our subsc= ribers wrote last week: Truth is, in your family and in mine, it looks like = the mothers/wives are the anchor=2E =A0 Lovework =A0 The greatest thing you can do for your children is to love your wife=2E=A0 Y= ou wife will love =91Shall We Dance=3F=92, you probably will to=2E=A0 Take h= er out, a meal or coffee would be great too and always remember, =91a spoonf= ul of sugar helps the medicine go down=92=2E =A0 Yours for more romance Warwick Marsh =A0 PS=A0 We as a family are on our way to Africa=2E=A0 Along the way we will be= sharing our music, encouraging people spiritually and working at a practica= l level as well as publicising the enormous needs of the world=92s poor=2E=A0= The biggest needs are not always physical ones=2E=A0 Corruption is actually= one of the largest problems facing Africa today=2E =A0 Our goal is to relieve the spiritual, emotional and physical poverty of chil= dren, their mothers and fathers both in Australia and around the world,=A0 W= e head off on this mission in just over two weeks time=2E=A0 If you would li= ke to help us help the people of Africa, please give us a call on 041 822 52= 12=2E =A0 Kind regards Warwick Marsh =A0 =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F Warwick Marsh=A0=A0has been married=A0to Alison for=A028 years=2E He is the = father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 23 year= s to=A012 years=2E=A0 Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public= speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself=2E Dads with Young Children ---------------------- =A0 A three-year-old child is a being who gets almost as much fun out of a fifty= -six dollar set of swings as it does out of finding a small green worm=2E Bill Vaughn Grandfathers ---------------------- Great Fathers are able to effectively combine toughness and tenderness: They are tough minded, but very tender hearted=2E =A0 Leo Talbot =A0 =A0 Inner Strength ---------------------- =A0 =A0 =A0 Inner Strength =A0 If you can start the day without caffeine or pep pills, If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains, If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles, If you can eat the same food everyday and be grateful for it, If you can understand when loved ones are too busy to give you time, If you can overlook when people take things out on you when,through no fault= of yours, something goes wrong, If you can take criticism and blame without resentment, If you can face the world without lies and deceit, If you can conquer tension without medical help, If you can relax without liquor, If you can sleep without the aid of drugs, If you can do all these things, Then you are probably the family dog=2E Single Dads ---------------------- Redemption is only possible for those who are willing to learn=2E It is eminently possible for those who are willing to change=2E It is a sure thing for those who have a positive spirit=2E =A0 Michael Green Author of =91Fathers After Divorce=92, =A9 1998 Finch Publishing, Sydney Special feaure ---------------------- =A0 Fatherhood Foundation - A Brief History Further Accomplishments Part 5 of 5 =A0 13=2E=A0=A0=A0In March / April 2004 the Fatherhood Foundation, in partnershi= p with Men of Integrity, Port Macquarie and Australian Posters, conducted a = three month media campaign called =91Fatherhood Makes an Impression for Life= =92 using 6m X 3m outdoor billboard advertising strategically placed in Sydn= ey, Wollongong and Newcastle=2E=A0 The commercial value of this campaign was= over one hundred and fifty thousand dollars but was achieved at a fraction = of this cost through a strategic arrangement with all three parties=2E 14=2E=A0=A0=A0On 4th August 2004, the Fatherhood Foundation organised the Na= tional Marriage Forum, Great Hall, Parliament House, in conjunction with the= Australian Christian Lobby and the Australian Family Association in order t= o protect and support marriage in Australia=2E=A0 The Fatherhood Foundation = published =91Twenty One Reasons Why Marriage Matters=92 a groundbreaking com= bination of the best Australian and American research on the importance of m= arriage for the benefit of children=2E=A0 The primary reason why marriage ma= tters is that marriage increases the likelihood that fathers have good relat= ionships with their children=2E=A0 Successful marriage and successful father= hood are inextricably linked and research from around the world shows this t= o be the case=2E=A0 The National Marriage Coalition is also the initiative o= f the Fatherhood Foundation and can be viewed at www=2Emarriage=2Eorg=2Eau 15=2E=A0=A0=A0In August / September 2004 the Fatherhood Foundation initiated= the =91Dads are Cool=92 TV advertising (CSA) national campaign with many Au= ssie TV stations running the advertisements=2E 16=2E=A0=A0=A0To further advance the cause of Australian dads and support Au= stralian children, the Fatherhood Foundation formed the National Fatherhood = Coalition, www=2Efatherhoodcoalition=2Eorg=2Eau =A0in conjunction with the L= one Fathers Association and well over thirty men=92s, fathers=92 and church = organisations and family charities to lobby Federal Government for positive = father / family friendly reform at all levels of Australian society=2E=A0 Wi= th the links and relationships from these thirty initial groups, approximate= ly 300 total organisations were reached=2E=A0 The recent elections highlight= ed the huge interest in the restoration of the family unit=2E=A0 The Fatherh= ood Foundation has played a big part in positive policy development at both = a state and federal level=2E=A0 Warwick Marsh, founder of the Fatherhood Fou= ndation, was one of the featured speakers at Western Australia=92s first Fat= herhood Forum held in Perth in September 2004=2E=A0 Many of the forum=92s re= commendations are very similar to the Fatherhood Foundation=92s 12pt Plan re= leased on 26th June 2003=2E =A0 The fatherhood movement is gaining momentum and the process of reform is acc= elerating in the nation of Australia, due in no small part to the ongoing wo= rk of the Fatherhood Foundation=2E =A0 =A0 Thought for the Week ---------------------- =A0 Why do people marry=3F Because we need a witness to our lives=2E There=92s a billion people on the planet=2E What does any one life really mean=3F But in marriage you=92re promising to care about everything=2E The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things=2E All of it, all of the time, every day=2E You=92re saying your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it=2E Your life will not go on unwitnessed because I will be your witness=2E =A0 Mrs Clark 'Shall we dance' =A0 News & Info ---------------------- =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 Diversity and Change in Australian Families An interesting article and the report on Changing famiies in Australia =A0 http://www=2Enews=2Ecom=2Eau/common/story=5Fpage/0,4057,11481959%255E28102,0= 0=2Ehtml (http://www=2Enews=2Ecom=2Eau/common/story=5Fpage/0,4057,11481959%2= 55E28102,00=2Ehtml) =A0 =A0 www=2Evhetta=2Ecom=2Eau/downloads/DeVaus=5Flecture=5F2004=2Epdf =A0 =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F =A0 =A0 Australian Camp Connect Association in conjunction with Australian Family Su= pport Services Association are holding a 'Get Back to Emerald Christmas Get = Together'=2E =A0 The Wombat Corner Camp was the venue of our last Dads & Kids Weekend Program= conducted over the Fathers Day Weekend, 2004=2E Anyone who attended will vo= uch for what a great venue this is and the fun that was had by all=2E =A0 This day event, being held on Saturday 18 December is open for anyone to att= end=2E It is not limited those who have attended previous Camp Connect progr= ams=2E It is open to all friends and supporters of Camp Connect and or Austr= alian Family Support Services Association=2E=A0=A0 Bring yourself, your part= ner, kids, parents, grandparents=2E Bring the whole family=2E =A0 If you are aware of any single dads who would benefit from a day like this w= ith their kids please refer them on to us=2E =A0 It will run from 9:00am to 5:00pm=2E The cost includes the free use of all f= acilities on the campsite, a BBQ lunch, morning & afternoon teas, tea, coffe= e, cordial=2E Alcohol is not supplied, but feel free to bring your own=2E =A0 Some of the activities available include; * Games Room [table tennis, pool table, air hockey table] * Trampolines * Flying Fox * Low Ropes Course * Archery * Mini Golf =A0 If it is a hot day, you and the kids can walk across the road and have a swi= m in Emerald Park Lake or have a ride on the paddle boats [not included in t= he cost]=2E =A0 Program Costs =A0 For previous participants of a Camp Connect program - $22=2E50 per Adult and= $17=2E50 per child [under 14 years] For Financial members of ACCA or AFFSA - $20=2E00 / Adult & $17=2E50 per chi= ld General admission $27=2E50 / Adult & $22=2E50 / Child [under 14 yrs age]=2E =A0 Flyers and registration forms can be downloaded from www=2Ecampconnect=2Eorg= =2Eau=2E =A0 Payment can be made by cheque, money order or electronic transfer=2E Cheques= & Money Orders are to be made payable to the 'Australian Camp Connect Assoc= iation'=2E See our website for further details=2E =A0 You can register on line or via the mail=2E =A0Registrations close Monday 13 December 2004=2E =A0We hope to see as many of you there as possible=2E =A0 For further information contact Brad Mander Australian Camp Connect Association P=2EO Box 7057 Upper Ferntree Gully=2E=A0=A0=A0 Vic=2E=A0 3156=2E Ph / Fax 9754 2587 Mob 0413587120 =A0info@campconnect=2Eorg=2Eau (mailto:info@campconnect=2Eorg=2Eau) =A0 =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F Hug time =96 a doctor=92s cure for bullying SYDNEY =A0 Dr Evil, the Austin Powers villain, craved world domination but still found = time to ask his pint-sized offsider, Mini Me: =93Can I have a hug=3F=94=A0 This childish megalomaniac may have stumbled on the key to stop bullying in = our private schools =97 if parents only stopped to listen=2E=A0 =93There=92s not enough hug time,=94 concludes child psychologist John Irvin= e a week after a 14-year-old boy at an upper-crust Sydney private school all= egedly stabbed his classmate in the back, sparking a police investigation=2E= =93There=92s not enough down time, not enough laugh time=2E=94=A0 =A0Dr Irvine blames pressures of a fast-paced world for unexpectedly high le= vels of bullying among the nation=92s most privileged youth=2E=A0 =A0Parents have never worked longer hours and expectations they have of thei= r children have never been higher, he says=2E Increasingly, love was replace= d with money=2E=A0 =A0=93Sometimes those families that are paying for their kids to attend priv= ate school are paying a high price because they value education,=94 Dr Irvin= e says=2E=A0 =93But it may not give them any greater happiness when they try to pay for t= he kid=92s education if it means they=92ve got less time to spend with the k= id=2E The best thing you can spend on your kids is your time=2E=94=A0 =A0Dr Irvine says bullies tended to hunt as a pack and picked on schoolyard = stragglers=2E=A0 =A0One such straggler was the unnamed student accused of the stabbing who, a= ccording to school sources, was flailing socially and academically=2E=A0 =A0Dr Irvine says not all bullies are themselves picked on or unsuccessful o= utside the schoolyard=2E=A0 =A0=93We think of them being of low esteem and all that, but some kids are p= opular because they=92re bullies so that the other boys want to get on with = them because they=92re scared they=92ll be in the firing line,=94 he says=2E= =93Power works=2E=94=A0 Federation of Parents and Citizens=92 Association of NSW president Sharryn B= rownlee says the shrinking family unit means more pressure on every child to= excel=2E=A0 =93The pressure that=92s on these young kids in some of these schools is eno= rmous,=94 she says=2E Ms Brownlee says bullying affects both boys and girls but girls typically su= ffered blows in the form of insults, written notes, exclusion from social gr= oups and gossip=2E Physical bullying was generally left to the boys=2E AUSTRALIAN ASSOCIATED PRESS =A0 The West Australian=A0 27th Nov 2004 =A0 ***************************** Equal Justice Foundation USA Background =A0=A0=A0 In bringing order, logic, reason, and due process back from the hy= steria now surrounding domestic violence, the first problem has been to prov= ide and distribute reliable, well-researched information with articles by bo= th men and women (http://www=2Edvmen=2Eorg/dv-2=2Ehtm#author), and to docume= nt the impact current DV laws have on individual=A0 men (http://www=2Eejfi=2E= org/DV/dv-5=2Ehtm) and women (http://www=2Edvmen=2Eorg/dv-14=2Ehtm)=2E Since= November 1999 Domestic Violence Against Men in Colorado (http://www=2Edvmen= =2Eorg/) has been doing this=2E =A0That work led to the formation of the Equal Justice Foundation (http://ww= w=2Eejfi=2Eorg/Intro=2Ehtm) in February 2001 and since November 2001 ejfi=2E= org (http://www=2Eejfi=2Eorg/) has addressed national problems of domestic v= iolence (http://www=2Eejfi=2Eorg/DV/dv=2Ehtm), families and marriage (http:/= /www=2Eejfi=2Eorg/family/family=2Ehtm), courts and civil liberties (http://w= ww=2Eejfi=2Eorg/Courts/Courts=2Ehtm), prohibitions and the War on Drugs (htt= p://www=2Eejfi=2Eorg/Prohibition/Prohibition=2Ehtm), vote fraud and election= issues (http://www=2Eejfi=2Eorg/Voting/Voting=2Ehtm), and the fundamental p= roblem of preserving civilization (http://www=2Eejfi=2Eorg/Civilization/Civi= lization=2Ehtm) in the face of redfem dogma that insists, in the face of all= reason and logic, that women are oppressed and beaten to support the patria= rchy=2E Our work has been wildly unpopular with the DV and divorce industries as it = challenges their glutinous feeding at the public trough, and their wholesale= destruction of children, families, and marriage=2E However, we have gained wide public acceptance as our web sites now average = over 7,000 hits per day (more than 200,000 hits per month)=2E Usage jumps by= over 50,000 hits per month when schools and colleges are in session and stu= dents, researchers, and the press constantly contact us for information=2E A= nd this newsletter now goes to individuals in about 20 countries and is wide= ly reposted on the web=2E We are now carrying our message abroad as well as = at home=2E =A0 Dads On The Air - Sydney, Australia =A0On Monday, November 29th at 10-11 AM Sydney, Australia, time I will be ap= pearing on Dads On The Air (http://www=2Edadsontheair=2Ecom/index=2Ephp) at = 2GLF FM 89=2E3 (Sunday, November 28th at 5-6 PM Mountain Standard Time)=2E T= he show is broadcast live from western Sydney and webcast (http://www=2Edads= ontheair=2Ecom/archives=2Ephp=3Fshowsearch=3D1&keyword=3Daudio%20webcast) fr= om their site http://www=2Edadsontheair=2Ecom/ the following day=2E The show is hosted by Uncle Buck, an ex-policeman who specialized in domesti= c violence and himself fell afoul of the system when his wife made false all= egations against him; and the service did not back him up=2E So he has some = very strong views on the matter and it should be an informative and entertai= ning show=2E The many readers of this newsletter in the Sydney area are certainly invited= to tune in Monday morning=2E Others might want to listen to the webcast (ht= tp://www=2Edadsontheair=2Ecom/archives=2Ephp=3Fshowsearch=3D1&keyword=3Daudi= o%20webcast) later=2E =A0 =A0=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F= =5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F =A0 Letters =A0 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =A0 I am simply not convinced by Latham's sudden family first commitment=2E His = rhetoric exploits community concern about fatherless society, yet his ideolo= gy is focused on keeping the gender separatist appeased=2E That is: 'deficie= nt' men are responsible for fatherlessness, mentors can substitute fathers, = and - get more men out of the work force (read - give the girls more opportu= nities)=2E While I'm all for family friendly work places, it is the government and soci= al services that need to do more 'to recognise the significance of fatherhoo= d' - not just men, as Latham states - or the employee=2E Separated fathers a= re crying out for this recognition! The best way to foster fatherhood Mister Latham, is to bring solid change to= Family Law that will recognise the importance of a child's relationship wit= h both parents=2E Too many Fathers suffer state forced separation=2E His comments SHOULD anger business and employer groups because while the gov= ernment does nothing to protected fatherhood, he simply passes the buck to i= ndustry=2E Not Happy Mister Latham! Terry Dolling =A0 *********************** =A0 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =A0 Truth is, in your family and in mine, it looks like the mothers/wives are th= e anchor! Sadly, it=92s even more the case in many separated families=2E =A0 Love Noel =A0 *********************** =A0 Dear Fatherhood Foundation =A0 Thank you everyone at FF=2E Your weekly email/newsletter is uplifting and a = blessing to me and others=2E =A0 Regards Patrick Keong =A0 =A0 Dad's Prayer ---------------------- =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 Dear God =A0 Why am I here on this earth=3F What am I doing=3F Why am I a father=3F Why am I a husband=3F What is the meaning of life=3F What is the meaning of love=3F =A0 So many questions and so few answers! =A0 That=92s the way it seems, And yet everything is not the way it seems=2E Maybe that=92s why You said in your book: Keep on asking, and it will be given to you=2E Keep on seeking and you will find=2E Keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you=2E For everyone who asks receives Everyone who keeps on seeking finds and to him who keeps on knocking the door will be opened=2E Mission Statement & Help Us! ---------------------- Mission Statement The Fatherhood Foundation is a charitable, non profit incorporated associati= on with a goal to inspire men to a greater level of excellence as fathers, b= y encouraging and educating them, thereby renewing and empowering families=2E= Click here for more information about us (http://www=2Eausheart=2Ecom=2Eau/f= athers/about/index=2Ehtml) Help Us!The Fatherhood Foundation believes that the key to life is giving=2E= =A0 That's why this newsletter is given freely without expectation=2E=A0 Lif= e is also about relationships=2E=A0 That's what being a good father is all a= bout, developing relationships with your loved ones=2E=A0If you would like t= o give financially to the Fatherhood Foundation,please mail your cheque or m= oney order to:Fatherhood FoundationPO Box 440WOLLONGONG=A0 NSW=A0 2520AUSTRA= LIA You have received the fathersonline=2Eorg newsletter because you have subscr= ibed, or you have been subscribed by a friend=2E=A0 If you do not wish to re= ceive future emails, please click the=A0UNSUBSCRIBE button below or send an = email to info@fathersonline=2Eorg (mailto:info@fathersonline=2Eorg) with the= word UNSUBSCRIBE in the subject heading=2E To unsubscribe from this newsletter, please visit this address: http://www=2E= bosweb=2Ecom=2Eau/email=5Fblast/html/unsubscribe=2Easp=3Fclient=3Dfathers&ci= d=3D501 ----NEXT_BM_C53B54E4EB2A4293B8A99C65AC961063 Content-Type: text/html; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: Quoted-Printable